Love & Life Issues with EMMANUEL MUKULA
LET’S face it – when you have been hurt so many times in relationships by people who swore never to hurt you nor to leave you, your heart can get broken to a point where you don’t want to date anyone ever again.
You just don’t want to get into a relationship and get hurt again. It becomes so hard for you to trust and love again. It can take you ages to believe in anyone who tells you that they love you and want to spend the rest of their life with you. You can even think that love does not exist in this world and you may wish to stay single for the rest for your life because of the enduring pain.
The fact remains that true love does exist in this world. God gave it to us as a free natural gift to enjoy. You need to get over all those bad past experiences, emotional pain, torture, stress, worry and fear.
Love is there in our communities, we live with it, yes it’s very hard to find, but not impossible to find. After experiencing disappointment, one can choose to take some time off relationships and concentrate on other things as one shades off the pain of disappointment. This is also the time to do an introspection and learn from the past experience. The best person always comes when we choose to wait.
Sometimes people tend to ignore and reject people who are supposed to be the love of their lives because of the fear of getting hurt again. And it’s so absurd that there are no special words that the right man or woman for you can use to convince you that they are different from the one that hurt you. Most of us are tempted to think that all men or women are the same and we opt to stay aloof.
But if you are looking for love, you need to keep your eyes open and be very observant of the character you are dealing with. Sometimes it’s inevitable to take a risk and give your heart away again to someone else. If you don’t, you won’t get the happiness and love that you need even when an opportunity presents itself. The reason why most people make that mistake is that they become too careful because they don’t want to get hurt again. Come on, you don’t have to let the person who disappointed you deny you a chance to love again.
Remember, good things come by trying again and who knows, you may just find the woman or man of your dreams. Sometimes you need to love with your head, before your heart falls in love. What you have gone through, should help you to correct mistakes that you have made in the past. You don’t have to make the same mistake you made in the previous love relationships.
So the point is, if you are waiting for a Mr Right or your dream woman, keep believing, never lose hope of loving again. Keep on thinking about getting married and having a happy family. Finding real love is possible for everyone. Don’t give up because of one person that hurt you. It’s possible for things to get well and better.
Lastly, I wish to remind you that God has a plan for each one of us. But sometimes things don’t happen at the time that we want because it’s not the right time. But the right time does come.
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